Many times we become trapped thinking that a particular path (okay, or person) is our only option. When we actually listen, however, we discover that is not the case. There is an entire universe of choices available to us. We simply have to be open, explore them all and choose only the one that is perfect for us. Even if we have to wait.
As women we trip over this rock far more often than men do. We decide that we want a particular one and even though he falls short of even our minimum qualifications, we overlook his many, many and many more flaws because we’ve decided he’s the only one for us. How many times have we made excuses for him? “He doesn’t call because he’s so busy right now; it’ll get better.” “Yes, I pay for everything because he’s ‘between projects’ at the moment; he’ll get a job as soon as he finds himself.” “He doesn’t wear deodorant because he’s allergic to aluminum; when we get married, I’ll make sure he uses soap when he showers.”
It’s amazing how — when seen in the light of day — a path we once thought to be the only road to our destination is, in fact, not the right one for us at all.
So from this moment forward, the word desperation is no longer a part of your vocabulary. You’re an intelligent, independent woman. You are beautiful inside and out. Any man would be fortunate to have you in his life, only a very few deserve you, and there is at least one who’s perfect for you.
Don’t duct-tape yourself to a cactus when you haven’t explored the palms.
Be open and choose wisely.